Why do you want to get fit?
Is it to be skinnier?
To fit in that old pair of jeans?
To look like your little waisted friend?
Or do you want to be ripped with lots of muscles?
Your "why" is important. It determines what you do next.
The issue is, many of us only have surface answers. We have forgotten to think deep about the real reason behind wanting to change. We've learned to accept other people's answers as our own. But this needs to change. The most successful people in any endeavor are those that keep asking questions. They know that growth doesn't come from knowing the right answer, but it comes from asking the right questions.
There is a time when you and I would ask questions with persistence. We didn't accept the surface answer, we dug deep for the core reason. We said why and then we said why again and again and again and... well you get it!
If you haven't figured it out, I am referring to when we were kids. In particular, young kids. The average 4-year old asks 437 questions a day! Back then, we saw the everyday world around us with a fresh eye and a curious mind.
But as we grew older, we were discouraged from asking questions. Adults only reward the kids with answers, and often the kids with questions are told no. When you get told no over and over, you start to realize that it is best to stop questioning. We learn to accept things the way they are..
So why is this important in your fitness journey?
Because when you don't ask questions, you won't actually know what drives you to achieve your fitness goals, You might have an initial answer, but this answer is most likely the surface answer society gave you. You gotta keep questioning in order to figure out YOUR true reason.
Goal: I think it would pretty awesome to one day have a 6-pack.
So I look SHREDDED.
Why do I want to look shredded?
So people are impressed and compliment me.
So I feel more confident in my body.
Because it will give me a higher self-esteem.
My surface reason for getting a 6-pack is to look shredded. But when I really start to question my reasoning, I find my real answer is I believe it would improve my self-worth.
We could argue whether this goal would actually get me the feeling I'm hoping... but that is for another article.
Knowing my true "why" makes my goal more valuable to me, Looking shredded has no meaning behind it, if that was all I had to motivate me, I would lose momentum quick. Achieving a 6-pack as a way to increase my confidence in my abilities, now that means something.
Here is another example from a client of mine who wants to get in shape.
Goal: Get in shape
To lose weight.
To improve her health.
Because she doesn't want to end up with chronic disease as a result of her lifestyle.
Her father died young of a heart attack and she doesn't want the same thing to happen to her 3-year-old son.
Now which elicits a stronger reaction:: "losing weight" or getting healthy so your child has a mother for many years to come? If you're human you'lll feel more of an emotional pull with the second option. We feel more because there is more at stake.
We all have a deeper reason for our goals, It is what pulls at your heart string and gives you the drive to keep going. This is why we must keep asking "why" to figure out what truly pushes us towards a goal.... Do you want to live longer for your kids? Do you want to feel stronger so you are more confident in life? Or do you want to move better so you can explore the world with your significant other?
Find your why and start to take action. Just remember that there is never a time to stop asking questions.